As part of my 35th birthday celebration, I asked one question to people above this age: "What would you have liked to know when you were 35?"
These are their answers.
I wish I had the reassurance that the true and big changes in my life where barely starting so I wouldn't hesitate as much as I did to jump. I'm still in my 30's but I can see how much I was holding back because of over-thinking, and how much I have gained and have in front of me because I decided to "just do it". The energy, the strength, the curiosity we have in our 30's along the experience and financial stability I've gained, is the best combination and I've never felt more sure of how I want to keep going forward for the next years to come. Even if those years come with a few mistakes and bumps, being surrounded with the right people make you feel like taking a wrong turn once in a while is not something to be afraid of.
Que la vida se va demasiado rápido. Que también esta bien estar mal. Que ser extremadamente positivo en absolutamente todo se vuelve negativo. Que todo pasa. Que es fundamental entrenar la mente para vivir en el presente, por que sólo de esa manera se disfruta la vida. Entender que todo puede cambiar en un segundo para bien o para mal y hacer las paces con ese hecho. Aprender a soltar puede ser duro, pero necesario. Que las amistades después de muchos años también se acaban y está bien. Que Dios si existe pero no es como las religiones lo cuentan. Que el universo funciona en términos de energía. Que somos seres espirituales viviendo una experta humana y no al revés. Que es fundamental saber poner límites a los demás y en momentos puntuales a uno mismo. Que no hay amor más grande y fuerte que se pueda experimentar en esta tierra que el amor por los hijos. Que a pesar se todo, vale la pena la experiencia 🫶🏻. Saludos ✨💫y Feliz cumpleaños 🎂
Of the many things I was told by the elders, aunts, and uncles in my family, the truest truth is this: You cannot imagine how quickly it all goes by. In two years I will turn 70. That is 35x2! I remember, when I was in my 20s, thinking ahead to the turn of the millennium - to the year 2000, and thinking, “I’ll be 42 years old! What must it feel like to be so... ancient?!?” Now, when I look back on my 40s, I think that I was still behaving like a kid in many ways. Come to think of it, I still am. I think that makes me one of the lucky ones. My point is, you will be astounded when the next 35 years have gone by. It really is mind-blowing. My advice? Don’t waste your time chasing some vague, ethereal transcendence. Humanity has been searching for the answer to the unanswerable since time immemorial and those that have claimed knowledge of the unknowable have caused most of the heartbreak and suffering in this world. Be kind. Try your best to understand your companions on this planet. Embrace empathy. Love. Transcendence will occur.
Como educar a mis hijos
Cómo sería Mi vida en 20 años más ? Porque enviude con 2 hijos Ahora ya los Tengo y no pasó
Qu todas las personas somos bonitas en algo y somos valiosas, que soy libre de expresar mis sentimientos, que todos somos iguales y por lo tanto debo de estar segura de lo que hago, que es el mejor momento para viajar, divertirme y hacer ejercicio y buena alimentación por mi salud futura.
Cuando yo tenía 35 me hubiera gustado saber, que el ahorro es la base de la riqueza, vivía mi vida pensando solo en el presente y el futuro no me importaba. Hoy no me va mal pero creo estuviera mejor si le hubiera dado importancia a ese aspecto de mi vida....
Places I can travel How to raise my childrens
Me hubiera gustado saber que tan importante es dedicarme tiempo para mi...no seguir protocolos de la sociedad y valorar el tiempo...que ya no regresa....
From 35 to 45 years old is the golden decade, the best stage! I wouldn't change anything.
Tiempo atrás .... me hubiera gustado saber que la vida pude ser dura, difícil, que nos preocupamos demasiado por estupideces y hacemos a un lado el disfrutar. Estamos tan preocupados con las deudas, la educación de nuestros hijos ( quien los tiene) vivimos el dia a dia en base a una rutina desgastante solo puedo decir que ahora entiendo a nuestros padres. Pero muy a pesar de: Estoy fascinada con todo lo que he logrado hasta hoy y me entusiasma pensar lo que esté por venir. Solo pido salud para ello.
Me hubiera gustado haber sabido aprovechar más cada momento, haber valorado más mi vida y haber hecho lo que más me gustaba, como viajar, prepararme más académicamente, y que por miedos no hice....
Que en definitiva ya no iba a tener más hijos, a pesar de que si lo deseaba, hubiera aprovechado la oportunidad que me ofrecían de quitarme la matriz, tal vez no hubiera tenido la consecuencia que tuve años después y que otros años después tuviera más consecuencias. No sabía que la vida se pondría tan dura y que mi única opción es ser fuerte.
When I was 35 wish I had to known the importance of health, financial planning, work-life balance, continuous learning, and nurturing relationships. The importance of making time for hobbies and passions, know that patience is key in personal and professional growth and the importance of appreciating the present. And of course always be kind with myself.
When I was 35 ....... felt like I knew everything but as I grew older, I discovered that I knew nothing. I had my three kids and didn't know much of being a parent..... joy, sorrow, excitement and thankfullness.... I am sure that you will enjoy it!! Just keep yourself positive and be grateful for every achivement!! God Bless!! 😘❤️
Escribiré sólo algunas cosas que se me ocurren en este momento y que me hubiera gustado haber sabido cuando tenía 35: Hablar inglés, más que escribirlo. Haber sido más flexible en la educación de mis hijos. Que el tiempo en realidad se va más rápido de lo que uno cree.
When I was 35 I had just become a father. I would have liked to know that my daughters didn't need me to change and be the perfect parent and my partner didn't need me to change to be the perfect partner but rather they both simply needed me to be there for them, to listen and have compassion without judgment. I tried really hard to become a great parent and partner and I was never able to reach my grand ideals of perfection which caused me a lot of depression and anxiety in the long run. It also made me resent them because I felt I was doing all this for them and forgetting myself, expecting something in return. My daughters are older now and I've started taking the time to do things for myself again and I'm finding myself again. I would have liked to know that I didn't have to lose myself to begin with and that I was still me and that that was enough.
I'd have like to know that no matter how catastrophic, sad or difficult things get, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel and I realized that after my last su***de attempt. I got a second chance to be patient and let time do its thing, everything WILL pass, and there's no fast forwarding healing, learning and growing. If I would have known this 3 years ago, when I was 35, I'd have just told myself to take a big deep breath and that everything, eventually will be okay.
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May you all be happy.
